Often those who are unfortunate makes me feel ashamed of myself for whining over my problems which revolves only around my life. I mean come on, wouldn't you feel like slapping yourself for fussing over of not having a perfect dress for your prom when there are like thousands of Somalia kids don't even have a proper shirt?
Okay lets not focus on how we could get the funds to educate the Kenya girls yet. How about we go to the bottom of a problem? The birth of every solutions.
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At your lowest point of life, what matter the most is how you want to see the circumstances you are in. If you wish to invite only the negative perspectives, then there will be a huge wall between you and any possible hopes. But if you wish to have some faith; just a little spark of faith, is good enough to help you get through.
Berat mata memandang, berat lagi bahu memikul
The right to judge is not mine for the heartaches and hardships are fully encounter by the person. I mean; as much as I dont understand why certain people choose to do drugs, they wouldn't have understand either why I made certain foolish mistakes. I often replace the term of mistake with, learning.
The society have this tranparent guidelines between right and wrong, between what you should and should not be. Anyone that slip out of the line may have to carry the label of "bad", stamp on their forehead for perhaps, for the rest of their life. Those vulnerable emotions would not possibly have the strength to see any sign of hope when surrounded by eyes full of hatred and the looks of prejudices. Too much of weight on a person's mentality might lead them to end their own life, the part that we all fear.
Method to overcome a problem?
Talk about it. Spare your pain with someone that is trustworthy. The solution might not pop out right after the story part is done, but letting out those weight in your heart could help you calm down. This section should be strictly without judgement, it only takes listening to help. If you could or could not find anyone, He is always there.
Embracing. If it's a foolish mistake, accepting the fact that you have done wrong should be the first stage. There is a high possibility that you might fall into a denial stage, refusing our own scars.
Collecting courages. With the support of family or friends, it could be much easier. But when it's only you against the world, prepare your own shield. Tell yourself that you will change for the better, that you know you will make it happen someway somehow.
Finding solutions. Since solutions are not posted to our mailbox by God, it takes a few if not many ways, to find the right solutions. More like a trial-error stage. In the end you will find a way to your hardships that is within your capability.
Retain. Certain people takes a lifetime to achieve the stability stage. Often we stumble down in the process of rising up. Some even choose to give up. A consistent yet realistic target could help you find your way back slowly. If these changes means a life to you, no one else could stand in your way except yourself.
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Terasa diri itu betul sangat kah?
I am by far not a superhuman who could escape from making mistakes and enough strength to recover. But this is how I see it personally, a method that aged better with maturity. Not that my perceptions matter to anyone, but if it do give a little of hope to a person in need, I am more than grateful to share.
And of course, a smile work wonders too. Who knows if your destiny will smile back at you?
